Do you want to be Helped, Heard, or Hugged?

A simple question that might save your relationships.

Your daughter comes home with a troubled brow and downcast hazel eyes. You ask her how her day at elementary school went. She tells you about mean girl shenanigans and atrocities. Indignation builds, and you find yourself laying out a plan of defense for her, followed by some lines of counterattack. Your daughter looks up at you with confusion. She…